Is IVF Making You Infertile?

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Trying to get pregnant can turn into infertility. It’s a big statement.

You are wanting to have a child.You have tried naturally for the suggested time. Your wonderful connective sexual relationship is gradually repurposed into baby-making and now you are needing medical help.

Can the very technology invented to get us pregnant be adding to infertility? It is a contributing factor with some couples. Attitude is impacting aptitude.

This information is not for the majority of couples desiring to conceive. There are many couples having awesomely satisfying sexual union in the hope of falling pregnant.

I’m also not laying blame on fertility services. What we are witnessing globally is a phenomenon of dumbing and numbing ourselves away from innate, empowered sexuality and fertility.

Let me make a distinction between medical infertility and developing an infertile mindset. Medical infertility is the inability to reach a clinical pregnancy in over twelve months of having unprotected sex.

Today I am writing about developing an infertile mindset.

A shift in consciousness occurs. When we believe we are unable to conceive, it becomes the reality.

We have the capacity to reproduce ourselves. We have the innate intelligence to tap into our regenerative, recreative energy. If we take a magnifying glass into our bodies we will see millions of processes giving birth and creating new life within us. Our cells. Our hair, nails, skin just to name a few.

Reproduction is at an all-time high at every millisecond of our existence. And yet, many couples fall into a mindset of infertility.

Media driven consumerism, overworked, drive through options have all been culprits to numbing our bodies.

When our health is compromised and our body is not doing what it’s meant to do, we take ourselves into self-criticism. We think we don’t work or function properly. Feelings of deflation rise and we look too quickly into outside services telling us what is wrong.

But in its simplicity, creating space to feel and explore your body is what is required to make lifestyle changes. And faith.

Only last week a woman shared that she was married for three short months and trying to conceive when she ushered herself and her partner to IVF. Prior to that her two year relationship endorsed contraception. She panicked, felt an overwhelming flaw in their performance and sought IVF.

It wasn’t long before they started to relate their sexual life and relationship through the sterile petri dish of a laboratory. And not long after that, sex was minimal.

At a leading fertility hospital in Melbourne, I worked on a pilot program, helping patients with lifestyle factors fitness and nutrition. I saw the immense value of using science (pathology tests) to

create change in people. And I witnessed the power of human will. The will to change to optimise health.

Using information from pathology we tracked a woman’s reproductive health. It was amazing to help people turn their lives around using this empowering information. The pathology became the invitation for change.

But more recently I have worked with couples needing fertility and intimacy coaching to enhance their relationship dynamic, not pathology reports. After trying to conceive for endless years and on endless cycles of fertility assisted therapies. Sadly they are no longer having sex.

Couples trying to get pregnant who are not having sex is on the rise.

This is alarming. It’s a hidden psychosomatic trend that will grow if it’s not exposed and managed.

A long way down the fertility tunnel, these couples lose the lustre of intimacy by turning sex into a baby-making activity. They’re shut off from the entire sexual experience; loving flow, feelings and even the afterglow. The plight has become more about one sperm needing to dash to the finish line. There is a loss of libido due to long stints with assisted therapies. With the mindset of “What’s the point?”

Psychologically this takes its toll on a relationship. Neither partner wants to be used for sex, even if it is for creating new life. So sex is shut off in order to preserve oneself.

If you could rebirth yourself knowing what you know would you choose parents who had the spark of love, respect and care? Or a couple shut off from their intimacy? What future do you want to create for your family? The top three wants are to birth a life of love, peace and joy. yet sexless relationships birth the opposite.

People will keep the sacredness of their sex to themselves if it becomes a pawn for baby making.We know on average IVF cycles are around $15K plus. That’s a hefty ransom on sex over time.

Especially when sex is free. Natural conception is free.

What does it cost a couple to create a child? A lot more than money it seems. Intimacy, connection, trust the body’s ability and sanity.

We need education and reform here. Couples need to know this is a possibility and how to avoid getting to this point.

The reasons are plenty. A child may not enter your life, and you may be left both childless and sexless.

Thriving families need thriving relationships and thriving relationships require intimacy. You are the first sex education teacher your child will experience. If the intimacy is not there, the growing baby will feel it.

Infertile mindsets can be changed. Assisted therapies have their place in just that ‘assisting”. But they do not replace the natural dynamic flow of human connectedness.

Don’t allow a lack of intimacy to sterilise your life. A satisfying life and relationships are rights and rites to joyous living and a recipe to happy families.

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My careers span from Pharmaceutical Health & Wellbeing and Sexual Health.
I am a scientist by education, a sensuality and spirituality teacher by journey.

My work was birthed from the deep calling to unite science with spirit and bring
fertility teachings to reproductive issues. And help singles and couples to the
sacred and cherished gift of fulfilling relationships, sensuality and procreation.

A satisfying life is lived with conscious relating, conscious conception, conscious
parenting, whatever stage you are at, I support you with depth and clarity.



loversWould you agree that any foreseeable change you endeavour demands your attention, diligence and your joy barometer to be on? Leaving anything to chance or to tomorrow may leave your New Year inspiration in the insurmountable get to basket.

As last year drew to a close, I found myself bringing vulnerable conversations to the surface with my beloved. It wasn’t the December month ticking over. Nor the New Year clicking over and needing flippant resolutions to put a feather in my cap. My heart and soul were calling to be heard. And I felt my identity within the relationship changing.

Applying simple concepts of heartfelt conversation, listening with both ears and speaking from truth, what I felt was becoming a big issue ended up being a deeply enriching communion of our relationship growing.

Our agreement didn’t start and end with a string of words. There is promise from both to create change in the coming months. And I feel the newness in the clarity of our ongoing communication.

Do you find that with your relationship? A niggling issue of the past is slowly brewing up into a bigger issue that fogs your daily mind?

Leaving matters of the heart un-rested can create feelings of anxiety, overwhelm and fear of not being understood. And the dynamic is felt by your partner. Thinking that you are carrying the burden alone can be foolish.

Foolish because your presence changes, and it is felt. Foolish because one may start to express their will through intimidating ways or diminishing the other person.

If you are experiencing a cycle of change in your relationship, I suggest you develop your awareness behind the feelings that are stirring within.

Develop your vocal power and awareness of when you shut down, play small or censor yourself. This is a pattern that is emerging to be changed. Left unattended, and the power struggle will emerge. The longer it plays out, more unravelling will need to take place.

Vocal confidence will increase your ability to speak with authenticity. If you feel this isn’t your strong point, help from me is a Skype or personal visit away.

Too often I see couples and singles where their unspoken and unattended thoughts leave them in a state of dis-ease and dissatisfied in life. Too often at social gatherings people bitch and moan about their dissatisfied ways only to have another year tick over. No change. More of the same.

It’s time to revolutionise your relationship dynamic. Move from feeling despondent into the natural flow of loving. Raise the loving flow in your life. It’s time. Feel your ripeness and readiness for juicier flowing love.

Break down what is the matter at hand. And remind yourself that you both matter. Situations that create conversation towards loving flow and depth are mere stepping stones to fulfilling relationships. You both have a piece of the puzzle that will help each other see a new perspective and live in an aligned way.

Collaborate with your partner. Do it in different ways. There are different languages of love. Different ways to offer change. Use your words, your actions, and your time and gift each other with presence.

Be in truth – always. Make this a non-negotiable for you. You don’t have to say everything you are thinking. But acknowledging your inner truth will help clarify your expression and make for a sustainable outcome. And in the spirit of truth, accept your partner’s view on the situation.

Accept and ask for solitude. Make alone time ok where necessary. Many couples break into a sweat or freak out if one wants some alone time. Trust in the aloneness, as clarity can prevail.

Introduce date nights regularly. Carving out the time is the offering. What you create together in that time is the gift. My partner and I take it in turns and the offering is the gift to be shared together. Alternating from partner practices to deepen our communication, our sexual relationship and sometimes it is giving and receiving sensual touch.

Know that the call into deepening love is an invitation. It’s a change in the unspoken words of your love that you are both seeking. If resistance does arise, I invite you into self-inquiry. A past relationship or childhood dynamic may be sparking the resistance. There are pearls of wisdom to be mined and revered.

Think back to a time where you both created inspired change. It may have been a new home, relocating, a child or a business venture. The alignment, excitement and joy in keeping your combined dream alive allows for the conscious creation of a joyous life.

And keeps the love meter on red hot high.


Helen empowers people to explore the hidden knowledge and mysteries that keep our relationships limited and dysfunctional. She utilises a range of modalities to expand conscious communication and heartfelt intimacy.

She is gifted with creating safety, support and encouragement to delve into your limiting behaviours and patterns. Leaving room for vitality, joy and satisfying relationships. Helen holds private sessions, workshops and retreats.

My Life as Fertile Cosmos

fertilecosmos-com-2As I sat in my last corporate job five years ago, I thought it was the last major upheaval and change I was going to make. Moving on my life after a 19 year marital relationship, and a career spanning 18 years in pharmaceutical I imagined huge change was complete in my lifetime.

I was sad as my career served my intelligence and application to be diverse in a multifaceted environment. Above all, saying goodbye to the people that enriched my life. I worked in an industry manufacturing and launching anti cancer drugs to over 78 countries in the world. My role as a New Product Launch and Labeling Manager excited me. But the people that worked for me and I worked for enriched me. The growth I felt through my daily interactions both locally and worldwide opened me up to the diversity of humanity. And I relished this.

I was excited about the diversity of work and people, the timelines of rebranding 1800 product lines across world markets. Getting rebranding takeovers down from 4 years to 2 years in a highly regulated worldwide economy.

But I knew I was ready for an inner challenge. One that would stretch me to new heights and delve new depths. Working with a talented team of highly skilled professionals was easy compared to taking my show on the road. But the knock on the door was too strong to ignore any longer. The fire in my belly ignited me beyond a rebrand strategy.

I was calling for me to be re-branded and relaunched into the new phase of my life.

I was experiencing deep desire to create. To pull my innermost resources and birth new life – for myself. For my children. My efforts started to translate into birthing myself into a new found freedom.

I was observing people around me in business, in the industry I was giving up. In the industry I was wishing to create. I could hear people laughing in the distance, having business lunches in cafes creating from a blank piece of paper. I wanted that for myself. I ache to feel unbridled ideas flowing through with laughs and joy pouring through me again.

I was ready for new growth to sprout. To feel the fullness of my abilities in a new way.

Since then much has changed. Making the change from one of the highest regulatory structured industries in the world to being a creative was hard. Moving on from managing highly skilled graphic designers, I needed time to change and find my middle ground. I went from highly structured to disarray. Forming a new business needed more that swapping 6 inch heels to runners.

Owning my business was not about introducing scheduled breaks, meetings with myself and others and creating Standard Operating Procedures. It involved flexibility in networking. Sticking my head out with richly inspiring proposals of service just to be told NO. In establishments that I used to work whilst I held my corporate career. All of a sudden, not much was making sense. And I was tired of whispering to myself that I needed a performance management plan. The inner joke I was repeating to myself became a rigid hurdle I was finding hard to jump over.

Being available more at home meant my two children thought I was more available. I soon fell into the groove that they needed me more than the fertility services that said no to me. I started going out less. I became more of a stay home mum raising my teenagers. I felt myself stifle and go backwards in my skills and drive.

As I reduced my workload, health concerns started to niggle me. The overdrive syndrome came knocking on my door. Healing my health was starting to become an agenda item. And in doing so, I opened up into my body’s wisdom. And I found the clients that were seeking me out, were presenting with similar conditions. I was able to share my healing journey with them.

Thankfully my solid yoga practice held my foundation. To create the space for my body and mind to rest. In observing my feelings and sensations, this was fast becoming my greatest teacher. I tapped into poses and sequences to help women’s health and realignment. Within months, I created a Yoga and Qigong DVD with Simon Blow, a renowned Qigong Master. The DVD and teachings focus on fertility and reproductive health.

The fertility service started to bloom again. I felt my creativity return. My inner seeker was hungry again. With all the clients I was seeing and the questions I ask when starting Assisted Fertility Therapies, there was one area unexplored in conceiving – Sexual intimacy, family dogma on sexuality, and unresolved abuse ranging from emotional, physical and emotional was missing.

I started to research and explore tantra. Wishing to enrich yoga teachings from union of self, to union with another. Too many clients were coming through with unidentifiable medical reasons for not conceiving. I want to be the bridge to that knowledge.

A new shift has emerged. I have made Performance Management Plans redundant in my mind. I took stock of my life and allow the flow to excite me again.

I am letting go of rigorous expectations, what others are doing in the industry, how others speak and present.

I am saying hello to my authority. My higher education. My diversity in human interactions across world wide borders. My big heart, compassion and understanding on how adversity can stifle creation. Can stifle our fertile life. Beyond the creation of a child. Its the creation of self.

I need to be the fertile cosmos of myself. Heeding the call to create and recreate myself through the cycles of my life. To trust in stillness. To trust when expectations fall by the wayside to create space. In the space there is great wisdom ready to emerge from our body. To heal and expand ourself. Before fueling the life of a child. To fuel our own existence.

Who Is Helen Zee

My first career was in pharmaceutical. My second career was lifestyle coaching for fitness, yoga and nutrition. I also worked with Monash IVF helping clients with pre conception health

In 2013 I discovered, embodied and teach tantra extensively as a modality of transformational growth.

I mentor clients on creating satisfying relationships. And I assist clients wishing to conceive their child. A satisfying life is lived with conscious relating, conscious conception, conscious parenting, whatever stage you are at, I support you with depth and clarity.

Conscious Conception Coaching with Helen Zee now on offer

Are you wishing to experience more joy and pleasure in your body and in your relationship? Would you like to know how to open up to more of the conscious conception realm?

“My intent is for you to feel intimacy and pleasure in your body through your open heart, and embody it as a way of BEING as opposed to DOING in your daily life. Enjoying yourself whilst you are preparing for your baby” ~ Helen Zee

Intimacy is an integral and important part of our lives. Its our birth rite to experience ourselves and to have sustained pleasure in our life. Life becomes more nourishing and meaningful on many levels when we accept our pleasure in our body as a way of BEING as opposed to DOING to create it as specific experiences. Tantra philosophy, practices and healing are the way I offer this to you.
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Do you feel you can connect with your deeper intimacy?

Can you recognise your barriers of protection and are you willing to release them?

Are your worn out thoughts, emotional patterns, hiding or playing small preventing you from fully living and expressing yourself in your life?

Are you trying to get pregnant but cant?

Do you experience sexual dysfunction?

Do you wish to understand relationship dynamics better and how masculine and feminine polarities naturally exist in our relating?

If you are nodding “yes” to any of this, then this is what you can expect from your personalised sessions:

~explore the sensuality and pleasure in your body

~ learn or relearn ways of deepening your interactions
~ understand the masculine and feminine ways of relating in healthy and unhealthy ways
~ identify with the barriers that are preventing you from conceiving
~ healing and mentoring in the parts of your life that leave you separated from your vitality, vibrancy and essence
~personalised education with home practices for you and your partner

 INTENTION OF SPACE CREATED – the space created and offered is one of integrity, trust and a sense of safety to allow your full expression, awareness, education and mentoring so you can take action in your personal life.
The practices and philosophy includes breath, bodywork, education, talks on sexual dysfunction (where applicable). Using Councelling, sexual education and tantra philosophies.

SESSIONS OFFERED are for singles and couples, with a specialised educational program for couples trying to conceive

SESSIONS can be experienced in person (2 hours) or via Skype (1 hour). In person sessions held in Melbourne Australia, or by invite for interstate or overseas clients

YOUR OFFER – as an introductory offer you can have 3 Intimacy Wellness Coaching sessions and PAY FOR 2 ONLY!* (to be completed within 8 weeks of each other for best results

Information and booking can be directed to

ABOUT HELEN – She quotes “Our reproductive area is our life force creativity energy that makes us feel alive and vibrant. Befriending this energy is the key to overall health and wellbeing” ~ Helen Zee

Helen is a lover of life and an eager student of human relating. She is a Holistic Lifestyle Promoter & Trainer and Yoga Teacher for over a decade. She offers support and advice on sexuality, embodiment, nutrition, exercise, yoga, meditation and emotional support for women and men. Helen is also certified with Angelos Institute of Holistic Healing in energy healing modalities

Helen  has immersed herself in Tantra teachings, varying modalities and has been said by her teachers to have a strong shakti embodiment. She facilitates workshops on Conscious Intimacy to help educate the community on deeper intimacy and life satisfaction.

From contributing to magazines and publications, to producing a DVD on “Yoga and Qigong for Fertility” Helen’s drive is for people to be connect and embody their greatness.

A personal message from Helen~Id like to hear from you if you have any queries and to see if my offering is right for you. Please feel free to share this information within your community for people that you know may gain a benefit from living fuller, happier, vibrant lives!

* Introductory price of 3 for 2 will be available until May 2015.

Testimonials – what people are saying

Helen brings her deep wisdom, intuition and compassion to the healing space and works with total integrity. I feel held unconditionally by her in sessions allowing me to trust and surrender completely in my process”  ~N.G. Hawthorn East

Helen is calm and encouraging. Her gentleness facilitated my relaxed entry into what for me was totally unknown. In truth, I was so fully immersed into a deep meditative spaces that my cares at that time were totally forgotten. I left the session feeling happy and at peace” ~ James 55

“My partner and I felt totally supported and guided to share deeper with one another and trust we were heard and understood. Helen’s caring nature and integrity made it easy to discuss our intimacy concerns and work on them to create changes within ourselves. Her notes and guidance has allowed us to incorporate a beautiful home practice where we have benefited” ~ CG and HA, Victoria

” I feel my fullness as a woman. My history regarding my sexuality has needed to be retaught. I am glad to have been taught in an integral real way what is like to live my sexuality in a guilt free way. My confidence has improved and I am able to trust myself for the first time. That is freedom for me! ( leading me to revive my relationship with my partner and daughter)” ~ Helen 38 

You are a natural at creating a space where I feel totally safe in sharing everything that I am feeling at the time. And the way you relate our talking time to deeper aspects of myself and my patterning in life has been the pieces of the puzzles I have been searching for. Your female presence is pure and beautiful. Thank you!  ~ Marc 42

“My wife and I didn’t think we needed re-education in sexual intimacy in preparation for parenthood. The process, guidance and tuition Helen offered has enabled us to experience more vitality, virility and deeper connection. Helen even wrote a book with instructions and a personalised book cover! Conscious intimacy for conception is now something that I recommend to all my friends…as we are happy to announce we are 16 weeks pregnant!!” ~ IH and HH, Regional Victoria ages 35 and 37 respectively 

Fertile Mind, Fertile Body

FertilityDo you have an Infertility Mindset that is making it more difficult to create the changes you want?

It’s a blunt question, I know but it may be keeping you from conceiving.

I find when working with people TTC (trying to conceive) there can be underlying mindset of infertility – even though all your external efforts are geared towards getting pregnant.

When people realise how their mind affects their body sustainable changes are made with more ease.

Are you thinking this is you? 

Do you take action but self talk that it probable won’t work?

Do you make love, wish with all your strength that this may be the moment and another voice questions you not to be too hopeful?

Do you whisper ‘what’s the point?’

Do you look at your meal, tell yourself you shouldn’t eat it but grab it anyway and tell yourself you will try harder with your next meal?

Do you want to exercise but find that time orlethargy is holding you back?

These are just some of the tricks our mind plays between what we truly desire and what we think is impossible to achieve.

As a special offer for the month of February I am offering “FERTILE MIND, FERTILE BODY” Skype Sessions.

Sessions are 1/2 hour long.  You will receive a questionnaire from me before hand so I can determine which area of your life needs changing.

As a BONUS, all consults will receive my DVD Yoga and Qigong for Fertility (valued at $30)

Already have my DVD?  Don’t worry!!! No one gets left behind.
You can have a 30% discount on your consult.

Consults are $50 with free DVD ( excluding postage). DVD valued at $30 Or $35 at the discounted price

All consults include a pre call question are and post call Fertile Mind Fertile Body Care Plan.

Contact me on

I will be in touch to arrange a time with you.

P.S. Feel free to share the love with others who are also trying to conceive
P.P.S. Already pregnant? Heartfelt congratulations to you and wishing you a safe and healthy journey till you hold your baby in your arms

Your Fertility Support Partner,

Helen Zee

How Manual Lymph Drainage can boost Fertility

Women have numerous misconceptions about their fertility and ability to become pregnant. In fact, a recently published study from Yale University showed that 50% of reproductive aged women never discussed their reproductive health with their health care provider, and 30% visit their provider less than once a year. This has led to less education and informed choices amongst us. [1]

While the research did highlight the many facts a woman should know, there is one thing it did miss: fertility treatment doesn’t only take place in healthcare institutions. You can easily boost fertility with the help of a spa massage known as Manual Lymph Drainage.

What is Manual Lymph Drainage?

Manual lymphatic drainage is a unique massage used by spa therapists and aestheticians to encourage lymph flow in the body. Also known as lymphatic drainage, the procedure is mostly used to detoxify the body, complement cellulite treatments, counter acne, and relieve individual’s pre and post plastic surgery.


Manual lymphatic drainage is a unique massage used by spa therapists and aestheticians to encourage lymph flow in the body.

Our lymph system is paramount to our overall health. When it’s not functioning optimally we can manifest frequent colds, be prone to infections and joint pain. By carrying excess weight and excessive toxins in our system in overload amounts, we can experience ill health.

The lymph drainage massage targets the lymph system, which is a group of vessels and lymph nodes that complement blood circulation by delivering nutrients to cells and carrying away toxins and waste. With the help of light, circular pumping movements, your lymph system will be stimulated and you will feel more relaxed and at ease.

How Manual Lymphatic Drainage Can Boost Fertility

As exotic as it may sound, lymphatic drainage has the power to improve your fertility. The following points explain how.

Balancing Hormones–Women’s hormones regulate a number of things, but they are best known for controlling their periods. Since the lymphatic system circulates hormones through your body, it should function properly to deliver your reproductive hormones and those necessary for your fertility. This is why some physicians may recommend lymph drainage massage to support assisted conception methods like invitro fertilization (IVF).

Detoxifying Your Body – This type of massage can boost women’s fertility by detoxifying their bodies. Toxins are the main reason behind polycystic ovaries syndrome (PCOS), painful periods, bloating, and infertility. By ridding your body of toxins through manual lymphatic drainage, your body will grow fertile. Not only does this mean that your chances of conceiving via a fertility treatment will improve, but it will protect you from the heartache of miscarriage.

Boosting Immunity – In addition to balancing hormones and ridding the body of toxins, using this non-conventional treatment improves your immune system. Now you must be wondering what that has to do with women’s fertility, but studies prove that immune system disorders and autoimmune diseases can affect your ability to get pregnant. For example, if you’re allergic to semen, you will never conceive naturally. Some cases are so extreme that their IVF treatments tend to fail due their immune system. Therefore, reduce your dependability on medicines and boost your immunity with this gentle massage.

As you can see, manual lymph drainage can help you counter many issues while improving your immunity and fertility. Just make sure to get this massage from a trained masseuse or masseur and you’ll get all the benefits of this procedure.

Our lymph system is paramount to our overall health. When it’s not functioning optimally we can manifest frequent colds, be prone to infections and joint pain.

Our lymph system is paramount to our overall health. When it’s not functioning optimally we can manifest frequent colds, be prone to infections and joint pain.

Additional Suggestions for Self Care and Home Care

In addition to your manual lymph drainage massage, you need to work on rejuvenating your lymph system on your own. After all, following healthy nutrition and lifestyle guidelines are two steps within your hands. To improve your vitality and help you maximise the effects of this unconventional fertility treatment, here are some simple yet effective guidelines.

Clean up Your Diet to Cleanse Your Lymphatic System – A healthy diet is one that minimally contains processed, chemically induced foods, preservatives, herbicides and pesticides. By consuming such a diet, your system will have less waste to clean up.

Substitute the Good with the Bad – You can change your diet a little to ensure your overall wellness. For example, replace simple sugars and grains with complex carbohydrates, fruits and veggies.

Avoid Food Allergens – Food allergens exhaust your body because they drive it to constantly clean itself. So eliminate these from your diet to complement the detox process of lymph drainage.

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Practice deep diaphragmatic breathing through your nose to keep your lymph fluids moving

Flush, Baby, Flush – You should start drinking at least 8 glasses of purified water. Better still, go for still alkaline water to reduce the acidity levels in your body.
Take Deep Breaths – You should practice deep diaphragmatic breathing through your nose to keep your lymph fluids moving. Optimising your breath enables proper amounts of oxygen to circulate around your body. Yoga is great for both, so consider taking it up.
Dump Emotional Baggage – Unresolved emotional issues lead to emotional baggage, which ultimately makes your body feel heavier. Deal with issues as they arise and move on.
Exercise Regularly – Get regular physical exercise to complement your diet and cleanse your body faster. You can take up skipping or trampoline if you can’t head to the gym.
Go Braless – Freeing your breasts is an excellent idea, especially as underwire bras cut into your lymph system and causes congestion. Try wireless bras as well.

Adding these tips to your to-do list will boost fertility and ensure the success of any fertility treatment you go for.


Yours in health & wellness,


Helen Zee



Numerous myths have surrounded the ever present FAT, mostly negative things are associated with it, the most famous myth which is “Eating fat makes you fat”. Contrary to this belief some fats even help in weight loss. So let’s shed the fat myth and work with the fat facts so we benefit with optimal health! The first thing to note is that, as in all things there are good and the not so good. The same goes with fats.

Here begins the Low-fat vs the Full-fat debate. Full-fat food may have more calories and cholesterol but it is required to transport vitamins A, D, E, and K, produce hormones, store energy, and protect organs. It also gives flavor and satiation to our food. Low-fat food may have reduced calories and cholesterol, but there is usually an increase in salt, sugar, and other thickeners just to compensate for the reduced taste. Processed Low Fat foods have been chemically treated so try to avoid them. Instead choose naturally lower fat foods. Choosing which fats that can help your diet and sustain your vitality is the main aim. Scrutinize food labels, see what your body needs, balance your diet and see what works for you.

Here are 5 facts about fat:

1. TYPES OF FATS -There are three main types of fat:

SATURATED FAT– These fats come from animal or plant sources, and are the typical fats that raise blood cholesterol. Butter, sausages, lard, whole milk, and cheese are some foods that have huge amounts of saturated fats.

UNSATURATED FAT– The two main types of unsaturated fats are polyunsaturated fats and monounsaturated fats, both of which may lower blood cholesterol. Polyunsaturated fats are found in soybeans, sesame and sunflower seeds, most nuts and their oils. Monounsaturated fats are found in canola oil, peanut oil, olive oil, and avocados.

TRANS FAT– Trans fats are added to food to increase the shelf life and improve the texture of baked goods and processed food. They entice your taste buds, then travel through the digestive system, then clog your arteries. They lower levels of good cholesterol and raise levels of bad cholesterol. Some products may claim “zero” trans fat because they contain less than 0.5 per serving, but any product that contain hydrogenated oil is made with trans fat.

2. HEALTHY FATS – Healthy fats such as omega-3 fatty acids, a type of polyunsaturated fat, have been known to benefit the brain, help with blood lipids, helps decrease stroke and heart disease risk, and support a healthy pregnancy. Omega-3 fatty acids can be found in fish, flax, and chia seeds.

3. CANCER AND FATS –Consumption of too much fat may also put you at risk of developing certain cancers. Recent study found that lack of good nutrition and physical activity is proven risk factors for certain cancers.

4.WEIGHT LOSS –In terms of weight loss and fats, what matters most is the difference between the number of calories you expend and the number of calories you consume. Fat and weight loss is about burning lots of calories and cutting back on the number of calories consumed. For the purpose of losing weight, it matters little whether the calories burned during exercise come from fat or carbohydrates.

5.BALANCED FAT IN YOUR DIET – Most adults should receive fewer than 30% of their calories from fat. For example, most adults who consume 2000 calories per day should limit their fat intake to 65g. The American Dietetics Association recommends limiting total calories from saturated fat to 7-10%. Monounsaturated fats should account for 10-15% of total calories and roughly 10% of total calories should come from polyunsaturated fat. And saturated fats should be consumed least and try to choose hormone free/organic as there is less chemicals stored in the fat.

Its known that chemicals and toxins are stored in fat cells of animals, including humans. With this in mind it serves us to limit highly processed, chemically laced foods to avoid our fats cells becoming a dumping ground for the toxins. Over time, our human bodies are using our fat stores for toxin waste tips which is why we have an obesity epidemic on hand. Our fat cells are trying to keep up with fat deposits and waste storage awaiting its elimination!

In light of these facts, I recommend these fatty foods which should help you in your crusade towards a healthier diet. The majority are plant based fats.



Avocado has a high fatty acid content but contains low levels of cholesterol. It is a good source of monounsaturated fat which reduces levels of bad cholesterol in your blood and lowers your risk of stroke and heart disease. It is also rich in fiber which aids in digestion, thus reducing constipation and diarrhea and lessening the chance of getting colorectal cancer. Improved digestive health can also prevent bad breath which is caused primarily due to indigestion. Avocados also contain lutein which helps to protect your eyes against cataracts and certain types of cancers, eye diseases and macular degeneration. This food also reduces inflammation in tissues, joints and muscles.


Almonds have two important fatty acids, linoleic and linolenicacids, which helps reduce inflammation all around the body, reduce the level of bad cholesterol and promote healthy skin and hair. Almonds are also a great source of vitamins and minerals and a lot of health benefits can be derived from these fat foods. Almonds are good for the brain for these contain riboflavin and L-carnitine which helps in increasing brain activity. Almonds also contain phosphorous which helps strengthen bones and teeth. The monounsaturated fats, protein and potassium, all found in almonds, aid in heart health and regulates blood pressure. The presence of Vitamin E reduces heart risks while magnesium in almonds can help avoid heart attacks.


coconut oil
In the past, coconut oil was considered harmful in the body due to the saturated fats it contains. However, what they contain is not the usual saturated fat but the Medium Chain Triglycerides (MCTs) which are fatty acids in medium length and digest well in the body’s system. MCTs and fatty acids in coconut oil are easily converted into energy when they reach the liver thus, prevents accumulation of fat and helps in easy digestion and weight loss. It also prevents diseases affecting the liver and kidney. Another fatty acid in coconut oil is Lauric acid which converts into monolaurin. Both lauric acid and monolaurin can kill harmful pathogens like bacteria, viruses and fungi that causes diseases such as herpes, influenza, and even HIV. Aside from Lauric acid, capric acid and caprylic acid can also be found in coconut which helps maintain blood sugar and cholesterol, strengthens the immune system and improve bone health.


fish oil

Fish oil is loaded with omega-3 fatty acids like alpha-linolenic acid (ALA), Docosahexaenoic acid (DHA), and Eicosapentaenoic acid (EPA) which play important roles in brain function, normal growth and development, and inflammation. Fatty fish like salmon, mackerel, swordfish, lake trout and sardines are rich in these omega-3s. Clinical tests have shown that omega 3 is effective in reducing cardiovascular diseases. Since fish oil is a great source of omega-3, it reduces the risk of heart diseases and other chronic diseases, lowers the level of bad cholesterol and increases the level of good cholesterol. Some research has linked taking fish oil with improved thinking skills and behaviour in children with ADHD due to its high concentration of fatty acids. Brain matter consists of about 60% fats, especially essential fatty acids such as omega 3 and omega 6 thus, fish oil helps to improve the functions of the brain.


Olive Oli

Olive oil has been popularized as a good cooking aid due to its health benefits. The main type of fat found in all kinds of olive oil is monounsaturated fatty acids which are considered a healthy dietary fat. Monounsaturated fat lessens cholesterol build-up and reduces heart problems. Olive oil is also rich in anti-oxidants which helps diminish the oxidation effects of bad cholesterol and minimize cancer risk. Ideally don’t fry with it as it changes its structure and produces toxins. It also slows down the aging process of the human body that is why olive oil is widely used in cosmetic products

How To Cook With Fat:

One of the main things to consider when evaluating whether it is OK to heat extra-virgin olive oil (or any other oil for that matter) is the smoke point of the oil. The smoke point is the temperature at which visible gaseous vapor from the heating of oil becomes evident. It is traditionally used as a marker for when decomposition of oil begins to take place. Since decomposition incurs chemical changes that may not only result in reduced flavor and nutritional value but also the generation of harmful cancer causing compounds (oxygen radicals) that are harmful to your health, it is important to not heat oil past its smoke point. Inhaling the vapors can also be damaging.

A good tip is not to burn your oil, or over cook your food. If your cooking smokes out your room you should consider not eating your food.

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Yours in health & wellness,


Helen Zee

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